Aug 27, 2021

Who’s holding the director’s mic inside your head?  Do they deserve it? A few months ago I realized I’d been hiding. I’ve had some old stories from an abusive leader running the show in the back of my mind. (Have you done that? Regina George from high school is still telling you no one likes […]

Aug 3, 2021

What would it look like for you if you could manage conflicts and feel confident as a leader? Imagine if there was a way to get there without all the miscommunication and your own fears getting in the way. What would that look like? What would you say? What questions do you ask? And how […]

Mar 29, 2021

Do you get stuck in imposter syndrome in your leadership? Are you a Professor who’s trying to be out front all the time because someone told you that’s what leaders do? Or are you the Connector who’s focusing on the numbers when really you want to work with the people? Maybe you’re the Natural who’s […]

Sep 1, 2020

I totaled my dad’s car when I was 16—in my own driveway… I  backed the ‘82 Cutlass Supreme a random F250 black truck with an enormous tow hitch that had chosen that moment to turn around in our driveway. What I didn’t use that winter morning? My mirrors. Cost me a lot of time scooping […]

Jul 8, 2020

Shuffling papers, walking from the desk to the kitchen table to the counter, and muttering to myself, I was a whirlwind of activity. More like I was circling the drain. Michael said, “Babe, do one thing at a time.” Didn’t he just diagnose that situation? Have you ever been there, spinning your wheels and going […]

Jul 7, 2020

You talk to yourself all the time. Sometimes, you a little salty, my friend. Much of the time, we just let thoughts sail right into the truth pile without, well, a second thought. But we can grab them. Hold them up for a mini inspection. And then choose to change the thought. In my faith, […]

Jun 21, 2020

“Be nice.”  “Don’t make a fuss.” “You’re so bossy.” Ever heard any of these? Uh, yeah. Me, too. Our culture has pushed several limiting beliefs about confrontation—and mostly to women. The message—well, the lie really—is confrontation is mean, aggressive, and not nice. That lie has turned into quite the monster in our culture. Sharon Hodde […]

Jun 20, 2020

What’s the story behind the story? Just out of reach of my daughter’s 10-year-old arms is a huge snarl of hair on the back of her head. Like 90% of the time. And she doesn’t always even know it’s there. Without extreme effort or some outside help, that rat’s nest never goes away. We each […]

Jun 14, 2020

Living with unresolved conflict is like trying to tango with a toddler on your leg. Lights keep me awake. I mean, sure I can take a quick nap (boy, do I love naps). I can use a sleep mask, but it’s not quite the same. The kind of sustained rest required for flourishing—who am I […]

Jun 7, 2020

I help people live peaceful and whole lives by equipping them with communication and conflict resolution skills. And right now, that work is intense. Because justice and anti-racism work is personal AND systemic. And if you’re new to this work, it often feels completely overwhelming. I’ve found the Enneagram a useful tool in examining my […]

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