Either/or thinking brings false security. When we are deeply stressed, particularly in a conflict or when we feel unsafe, we burrow into a place where someone or something must be either fully friend or foe. This position limits us to one issue and two-dimensional living. It reduces the fullness of humanity and “weaponizes belonging,” says […]

The tale as old as time: as long as there have been competing interests, there has been conflict. When the desires—neutral, evil, righteous, imperfect, or just—of a person or a group challenge those of another person or group, the result of that competition is a conflict.  Part one of this series connected our lack of […]

Growth is not linear. One of the most frustrating realities of life is that we don’t continually move forward. We rarely move from  success to success without a hiccup—or worse—along the way. Onward and upward is a position, a vision of the heart, not really a growth trajectory. When we fall back, we can quickly […]

Popcorn thoughts and piggybacking ideas? I’m there with purple markers and a whiteboard.  My natural preference thrives in big picture ideas and vision and goal setting and what’s next.  It’s the little, linear details of daily life that trip me up. Getting from one task to the next without succumbing to shiny distractions or bailing […]

I mean, nobody likes the #strugglebus. It’s always too hot or too cold, the seats are cracked, and the air has a vague smell of wet socks. No seat belts and either too many people or awkwardly few people. In short, it feels uncomfortable and vulnerable. But the great thing about the struggle bus is […]