Can we get rid of the phrase “We had a fight?” when we’re talking about relationship disagreements and conflicts? Fight indicates severity and violence. Words like survival and self-defense come up when we’re talking fight. Black eyes and wounds result. Seriously, nobody wants it.🙅🏽♀️ Disagreement or conflict changes the view. Then words like negotiate, win-win, […]
Death arrested our family last week. As the reality of mortality does so well, the extraneous falls away. The distilled essence of what matters becomes clear. This dear one, who would lie in the road for me even before I married her nephew, was a spitfire of a woman. She fought hard and loved harder. […]
Here’s a little nugget for you, friends—we cannot live life without conflict. And each of you reading that sentence just reacted to the statement. Some of you just looked for the exit to this article. (Stay with me, please! I promise, I’ll walk with you!) Others of you were ready for the action. Bring. It. […]
The tale as old as time: as long as there have been competing interests, there has been conflict. When the desires—neutral, evil, righteous, imperfect, or just—of a person or a group challenge those of another person or group, the result of that competition is a conflict. Part one of this series connected our lack of […]
Plenty of ink has been spilled bemoaning the lack of civility in public discourse. Partisan fighting, discord, dehumanization, and just plain ugliness. The rancor is exhausting us culturally and damaging us relationally. And it’s just not fun. I’ve wondered and pondered and puzzled over the why-is-this and the how-did-we-get-here quite a bit over the last […]
Your slant is your perspective. Everyone has a perspective. Perspective is shaped by personality, motivations, experiences, physicality, attention, and more. We all have implicit bias which influences perspective. I experience the world as a short, white woman from the Midwest, as an enneagram 7 and ENxP who has a lot of travel and education, as […]
I collect people. (Not like bobbleheads, but wouldn’t that be fun? A bobblehead collection of all my people!) From babies to grandparents, I love connecting with people. Unafraid to ask questions, people share their thoughts with me, and I share myself with others. I am forever amazed at the variety bubbling out of people, and […]
Sometimes, I believe I am living in tomorrow. Sure, I don’t say it out loud, but I behave as if I am not constrained by time. As if the future and what could be is bolder and brighter than today and what actually is. Sometimes, I see what’s coming. I see a bigger picture and […]
Growth is not linear. One of the most frustrating realities of life is that we don’t continually move forward. We rarely move from success to success without a hiccup—or worse—along the way. Onward and upward is a position, a vision of the heart, not really a growth trajectory. When we fall back, we can quickly […]
Fear cracks and fractures. Fear divides us from our whole selves and from other people. If I acknowledge or deny its existence, fear remains. Fear shackles part of my mind and holds back a part of me. When I am working with less than my full self, I am weakened. I do not serve at […]
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