Clutching the phone, my thumb hit call before my nerve evaporated.

This conversation would be challenging and vulnerable. My palms were sweaty, & I was scared.

My brain knows conflict is an opportunity for growth and connection.

My emotions, however, hear air raid sirens.🚨🚨

I don’t dive headlong into conflict. I overlook and move past quite a bit.

Yet when a relationship is broken and a wall grows ever-taller between us, I know it’s time to have the hard conversation my emotions would rather avoid.

During the conversation, there were many moments of mini-bravery.

Choosing to believe the best.

Asking open questions.

Sharing deep scars and context. 

Listening to other perspectives.

Owning my emotions & feeling them.

Setting boundaries.

Asking for what I need.

Apologies.

Forgiveness.

Peace.

Healthy conflict is not a tug of war with someone’s face in the dirt and the other standing alone. Rather, it’s rock climbing with a partner and triumphantly reaching the summit together.

Neither is easy. Only one brings you together.

Healthy conflict is not a tug of war with someone’s face in the dirt and the other standing alone. Rather, it’s rock climbing with a partner and triumphantly reaching the summit together.

Whenever I work through conflict or coach others through it, I am constantly amazed that we really are more connected in the end.

That’s my job: helping people become more connected and whole.

I’m offering a free webinar next week on How to Have a Hard Conversation.

☑How to start the hard conversation.

☑How to listen and express yourself (with tips for each Enneagram type).

☑How to reach connected closure.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

Thurs, May 14, and Sat, May 16.

Click the photo to sign up today!

⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀Making peace is messy business. I’d love to walk with you through it.